Before It’s Too Late

We tend to take people for granted when we know they’ve secured a place in our life. We do appreciate them (that’s without question), yet we neglect them. We sometimes say “I love you” only after they’ve done something for us. Sometimes forgetting the last time we’ve even said those three words. Don’t wait until it’s too late to make up for lost times is what I’m trying to say. It’s easy to get distracted in our own agendas and living life how we want to, that we become blind to the people who actually want to be part of our journey. Man, the guilt I feel is over whelming when I look back at times I could have visited my grandma and have some wisdom passed down to me or the times I could have cancelled plans to help a family member at home. So yes, writing this I have my family in mind.

My mom would always say, “Hoooii, sel’k mad, you’re gonna say ulekum a mommy mlartiang el ouchais er kid el kmo de mekerang.” I wanna spend as much time with my mom and dad so that when they are gone one day, I would have talked and spent time with them enough to not say “ulekum this… ulekum that…” I realised something with my parents that I’m sure most of you can relate. Our parents are one of the most vocal people in our lives. Yet, they also hold back the most. They could scold us, give us advice, tell stories, ask questions, but when it comes to what they need and how they are, it’s almost unheard of. Or when they see how much you want to do something, they’d let you do it even if it means they’ll be on the edge of their seat the whole time. So, to our parents and to any loved one actually, ask them, “How are you?” and DON’T accept a “I’m good.” Have them think it through, even if it means asking more questions. Because with a simple act like that, showing that you’re willing to listen, you’re willing to dedicate the time of day to them, to actually be present in their life, your loved one would feel like an actual “loved” one. And it’s not rocket science that we exude happiness when we receive love—  and what is more satisfying than knowing you are the reason behind that?